I’m an Ethicist asking awkward questions about AI architecture to keep human messiness at the heart of design. Our identity isn't universal and consent isn't a given. AI ethics, governance, and responsible AI sound like policy papers but are about whether a person gets to stay a guaranteed human--always a little messy. Does our identity change as it's continuously modeled and predicted? What happens when synthetic intelligence learns from me and shapes how I understand myself? Who decides which version of me remains? What does consent look like as AI evolves? I designed “Narrative Consent” as a framework to ensure personhood doesn’t become a toggle feature buried in architecture or as a terms-of-service checkbox. I doubt machines will become human. But I’m not as certain that humans will avoid behaving like machines: absent all the "messy" human experiences as a result of independent thought. Will AI serve as a tool or as a surrogate for our agency? Get in touch – let’s get awkward.